This letter was passed on to me by a friend, and was written by a friend of his. The field of pre- and perinatal psychology is not new, yet so few of us know, including most of those with many fancy letters after their name, just how intimately our earliest beginnings are connected to who we are, our behaviours and our beliefs (both conscious and subconscious).
Much of what we manifest in our lives is manifested as a result of that blueprint that encoded itself into our beings during our time in the womb, during our birth (was it peaceful? were you induced? were you cut out? were you circumcised? were you put to your mother’s breast skin-to-skin to immediately breastfeed?), and during the first six years of life. Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova calls it the Limbic Imprint.
The good news is that with the wherewithal and the right tools, the limbic imprint can be recoded. I say, why not start with a healthy imprint and save the work of imprinting a new one??? I’ve made it my passion to help people achieve this with the online course that I have created.
Read below to see how Glennie relates the man’s language to his potential birth experience. Doesn’t it make sense? How can we create the most intricate material things in this world, yet be so blind to the obvious links between our formative years and the intricacies of who we become?
(Apparently Glennie’s website is down for the moment, but check back soon, as it should be back up shortly.)
Here is the letter:
(Letter to Oprah Magazine written Feb. 8,2012 regarding an answer Dr Phil gave to a young man requesting advice from him.)
In the January issue, Dr Phil answered a young man complaining of his inability to finish projects and his need to be rescued from his unfinished work by saying “You’re Spoiled: Someone Has Always Bailed You Out In A Pinch”. I was a bit shocked to read what felt to me to be a quite callous response. As a psychotherapist who specializes in Peri and PreNatal Birth Therapy, the story this young man tells directly points me to explore the possibility that he not only had anesthesia at his birth, but that his birth probably ended up in a C-Section.
How can I make such a blatant statement? Well, babies emit a hormone that starts labor when they are ready to be born. They are totally engaged in being born and working with their moms (especially in a conscious birth) to tackle this first amazing feat of their lives… they are completely geared up and raring to go and then whammo, his mom is given an epidural, or even just a touch of morphine to ease the pain; (in the 1940’s and 50’s it would have been twilight sleep or a saddleblock, and in the 1930’s, ether…:(
Look at the words this young man uses to describe how he feels at the beginning of a project…he wrote, “I start out with so much motivation, but I can’t maintain it, and then I just stop.”
Now, just imagine, what the dosage of anesthesia that will numb labor pains in a 140+ lb woman will do to a 7lb baby when it enters their bodies through the placenta. Suddenly, after working for hours to birth itself, the mother is given the drug… the baby feels its effects setting in… all that forward momentum is not only lost, but the baby gets so frightened, it can feel like it is dying and the monitors start registering fetal distress. This labor has just started on that slippery slope toward an emergency C-Section… and having to be ‘rescued’ by the doctors. It is this being rescued that now translates into his everyday life as needing to be rescued by others.
This is not an uncommon scenario in my field of work… Growing more so as the C-Section rates in this country burgeon to 40%. Emotional issues we face in life today almost always have their start during gestation and birth. How we birth our babies matters…It creates our society and how healthy both physically and emotionally we will be as its citizens. It is also about changing the way we birth low risk normal babies in this country and educating ourselves to finally understand that unborn babies are sensing, communicating beings, that intrinsically remember their inutero experiences.
Healing this entails empowering his internal unborn self to experientially birth himself normally. This is not as crazy or difficult as it may sound and has been done countless times, by countless therapists trained in this field. Then, this young man will not have to prioritize his life or discipline himself, as Dr Phil suggests,( although they are all good skills to have). The energy that in the past has stopped him dead in his tracks will have been transformed into creative energy for him to use in any way he may wishe. I, myself have experienced and have successfully healed this birth trauma so I speak from both professional and personal experience. As a therapist, I know that I cannot take a client into a place I myself haven’t healed from.
Please forward this letter to the writer of this question for Dr Phil. He deserves a better answer than was given to him. He can look at my web site for more information. www.birthintegration.com and the web site for the Association for Peri and PreNatal Psychology and Health. www.apppah.org
Glennie Feinsmith, LCSW, NBDCH, Certified Peri and PreNatal Therapist.